When the News is Scary and Kids have Questions
Hi Friends!
It's no secret that life has been….heavy. We are here to support you as you navigate theses conversations in your home. Let's get to it with MomBrain expert, Katie Abney, LPC and LMFT-S sharing 5 tips.
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If your child isn’t asking/talking about it and isn’t directly impacted by it then there is no need to approach it
Just because something devastating or scary is happening in the world, doesn’t mean you need to talk to them about it. Follow their lead. If they are asking questions, talking about it to you or others, directly impacted by it or if they seem worried then thats your cue to approach it.
Be Honest
It is really important to be truthful with your children—kids sense when information is withheld, which can increase anxiety. Share honest, age-appropriate answers without unnecessary details. For example, if asked, “Will people trapped in a fire die?” you can say, “That’s why firefighters rescue people and bring them to safety.” NOTE** If unsure how to answer, it’s okay to say, “I’ll find out and let you know.”
Validate Their Feelings and Reassure that They are Safe
Asking questions is a great way to get a better idea of what they know about the event and what is specifically worrying them. That way you can provide the validation and reassurance they need. Reassurance can look like: “Mommy and daddy know what to do and will keep you safe” or “Look at mommy’s face, do I look worried?” You can also go over a safety plan with them so they feel secure in knowing what will happen if they are ever in a similar situation.
Limit Exposure to the News
The bulk of the information your kids are receiving about something going on in the world needs to come from you as much as possible. The news often amplifies fear with scary headlines and graphic images that are difficult for a child's brain to process.
Find Ways to Help and Give Back
Showing how people come together during/after natural disasters or difficult events in the world is critical for kids to see. Providing opportunities for a child to be involved in helping or giving back to those affected by a world event or natural disaster is a powerful way for them to be part of the “good” during the devastation. It also gives them an active role instead of feeling helpless.
Important Take Away
As a parent, the most important thing for you to remember is to regulate your own emotions when talking to your kids. Kids hear our words BUT they see and feel our energy. The undercurrent of what we are saying is what really runs the show.
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