Generally my partner and I agree on the big strokes of parenting and core values (phew). Overall, I think we split tasks evenly based on what we are best at (phew). We also have a fantastic relationship overall (phew). But with multiple kids the burnout is real and sometimes I feel (what feels to me? Maybe unfairly?) disproportionately overwhelmed as a mom. When tensions are high and I try to express frustration, set a boundary, or ask for support I sometimes feel like I’m being perceived or coming across as naggy, or condescending, or demanding. I don’t know if it’s because I get nervous and something gets lost in translation or something about my communication style gets mechanical, or if I’m just not great at asking for help and saying when something doesn’t feel great. Any strategies that work for others?
