I know this may sound overly simple, but sometimes you have to "suffer with a purpose" so you can stop "suffering in circles". Meaning - If you are clear with yourself and her that you are going to not hold her when you are cooking, or doing other things, you may have her cry for 1-3 times of you holding your ground - but then she will learn you mean it, and stop asking. Now I DON'T mean that you would never hold her again. But you can just be clear about your boundary. Like, "When I'm sitting on the couch, or playing with you I'm HAPPY to be able to hold you. When I am cooking, I am not able to hold you right now." And if you struggle to hold the boundary when she seems so sad - just think of it like a "kick the vending machine" response (we call this an extinction burst) - where she is trying EXTRA hard to see if you will change your mind. And what helps me in this moment is using the words: "I love you AND the answer is no." Trust me - it will be needed in many situations in the future. This is just the start.:)
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Best book you read in 2024??The Anxious Generation. O. M. G. - I think all parents of kids 5-15 would especially benefit from reading it!
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One of my kids does not listen. Fearful i'm raising a disrespectful kidThis is SUCH a great topic to be bringing up - thank you for asking. So - there are a few reasons kids don't listen, so I don't wanna oversimplify here - but I'll share a few quick things to consider, for starters:
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Are you using a lot of "telling" instead of asking? Check out this video about curiosity questions, to see what I mean (and it's not about saying "Can you please...?") : https://www.youtube.com/live/KnjAk0Df1V8?si=6Tv0ZDWga9c9EZOn
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Are you taking time to connect before you correct? https://youtu.be/rkjz98LgeA8?si=AuNGOvkZy-szxiyl
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Are you seeking ways to empower your child to be able to do things without you telling them. ie. Do they have a bedtime or morning routine chart, or their own list of what to pack to get out the door, or a picture in the mudroom of the 4 things to take out the door (ie. lunch, coat, boots, backpack)? If you wanna chat more - feel free to comment here and we can.:)
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Avoiding the dreaded flu and all the viruses - Immunity Hacks!!Long-term, having a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and exercise can all boost the immune system. If you or a family member commonly get sick, taking a deeper dive into gut health via stool testing & labs can be helpful.
In the short term Viracid by Orthomolecular is a great immune boosting supplement and available through my Fullscript https://us.fullscript.com/welcome/dockatiept
Vitamin C, Vitamin D, Zinc, NAC, probiotics, and elderberry are all good immune boosting supplements in times of heightened illness.
If the flu hits, all the previously listed supplements, salt & iodine baths, Oscillococcinum, other homeopathy based on symptoms in addition to staying hydrated and resting may help you feel better faster.
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Orthopedic RecIf you are in the Austin Area, Dr. Murphy at BSW - Lakeway or Dr. Geyer at Georgetown Orthopedic Group both have phenomenal surgical outcomes.
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How to encourage solo play?This may seem overly simple, but the biggest thing that helps solo play, is insisting that they need to play on their own. Meaning, don’t fall into the urge to solve it for them when they say they’re bored or sad. You can use phrases like, I can’t wait to see what you come up with. Boredom is the thing that happens right before creativity, usually.
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Older child dominates younger childIt’s definitely super normal that the older kid influences your younger kid. As a licensed family, counselor and parenting coach, I really don’t agree with thinking the younger one is wrapped of things by having an older sibling. Birth order does have different influences on a child’s personality, but there are always strengths along with challenges. Having an immediate buddy right there is quite positive for younger kids. And they get more pure interaction than the oldest kids got. So I wouldn’t stress about needing to create a different environment.
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Gift ideas for 8-11 year old girls?My daughter is turning 9 soon. Some things she loved last year were :
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iPad pen to do graphic design/ drawing on an iPad. It’s a cool art way to be on tech and she is leaning some actual possible graphic design skills!
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karaoke machine
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an alarm clock (that plays music), so she can wake up on her own and listen to the radio in her room.
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Breast lift - where to go in austin?I had an absolutely fantastic experience with Dr. Ashley Gordon at Restora Austin.
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Thoughts on a TrampolineI was worried about the same things and kept going back and forth even though the kids were asking for one. Then my husband randomly showed up with one and so I just went with it. That being said, it was the best activity that all four of our kids (ages 3-11) loved. We had it for about 1 year and no major injuries or accidents (except me trying to do a back flip). It was a cheap trampoline and sadly did not last so we got rid of it. But I highly recommend! Great exercise for the kids and fun for all ages! We plan to get another one.