It's all a myth & when we're excelling in one area, another is probably being neglected. For example, my startup is experiencing >+78% growth month over month. But you know what I've had to sacrifice for that to happen? Parts of my marriage. I can't give every part of me to everything, but he doesn't resent me for it; he supports me and steps in when I need him to. And vice versa.

Additionally, our cleaning lady comes 3x a week for 2 hours each day. She helps me keep up with the laundry, and she makes 1 meal for our family a week. Every 2-3 weeks on a weekend day, we hire a babysitter to come to the house for 5-6 hours so that we can literally complete tasks, like taking down Christmas decorations or running errands that have been piling up. if you can outsource, you must. And to echo CC, you have to say no to more things. Don't go to all the birthdays, don't go to all the happy hours, stay home on Galentines, don't frantically try to participate in every school activity or dress-up day... BREATHE! If it's not a RESOUNDING YES, it's a HARD NO.

And I am sure you are doing a better job than you're giving yourself credit for. Hang in there.

Ok I just finished The Silent Woods. Sooooo good!

@Pink-Fox Oh that’s tough! I think Daisy Jones & the Six is my favorite followed by Malibu Rising.

Hi! I love this question, too. As someone who has significaly limited alcohol, I'd love to offer a few recs!

• Book: Sober Curious

• Drinks: Find some mocktail recipes you love, and romanticize them. I make mine in wine glasses in the evening, but they're really my "sleepy mom" mocktails. My go to: Organic tart cherry juice, plain sparking water and fresh squeezed lime over ice. If you have magnesium in the powder form, that's a great supplement to add before bed.

• I also find that parenting "sober" is one million times better. I feel less irritable, I'm never hungover, I sleep better, and I don't feel frustrated if they wake up in the middle night, etc. I also work full time so to lose a day or hours at this point in my life with a hangover just isn't going to work for me.

• If you do go somewhere and choose to drink, consider opting for someting with low alcohol congtent. My favortie is a Pét-nat, short for pétillant naturel. It's a natural sparkling wine that is made with minimal intervention & usually very low alc content. You can find Pét-nats at Whole Foods. My favorite selection is at any Tom's Market or Meteor Coffee (they have a wall of great wine).

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Get a good carrier for your back or invest in the Tush Baby! OR lay the brown roller paper down on your kitchen floor, tape it down with painters tape next to you, and give her crayons or stickers so she can "play" but still well within your orbit. Ugh. So hard - these velcro kids! Here's the paper I'm talking about: https://amzn.to/4iBL2gl

We feel this way about our youngest, and we both read Hunt Gather Parent. It really did help & I was so appreciative of some of the principals & I do think it applies to all ages. Another good resource is Dr. Becky Good Inside. A lot of good content on her website for your sons age.

Oh gosh! Ok, in no particular order but here are the books I wish I could read again for the first time:

• Funny Story by Emily Henry
• Wedding People
• The Women by Kristen Hannah
• Educated
• Malibu Rising (and any/ever Taylor Jenkins Reed book!)
• Never Finished by Dovid Goggins
• Atomic Habits

ENJOY!!!

I dread and hate the idea of packing school lunches for the next decade+. My kids are 2 and 5. My oldest can't have: soy, egg, peanut and tahini in her lunch due to allergies in the class (fml). Any favorite Pinterest links or accounts you follow on IG for lunch ideas?

I've stopped drinking, but find myself missing the ritual of an evening glass of wine.