Why does summer give me so much anxiety, especially with work??
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Uhhhh bc it’s mother effing INSANE!!!!!! I did 5 drop offs and 5 pick ups today with work in between. First drop off was at 7am for swim team. Last pick up was at 4pm from kid #1 camp.
I’ve pretty much accepted defeat. I can only do so much and something is going to come crashing down.
I clearly have no advice but solidarity -
Not sure if this is helpful for you or your kids but the lack of routine is something that makes me anxious. I totally think a few lazy days in summer are great, but still want my kids to be used to a morning/evening routine, so I went on canva and used a checklist template to create something for each of them with the steps like “get dressed, pack backpack” etc. and sent it to print with canva in little notepads where they can rip off a sheet each day. I did just words for my 7 year old, words/pictures for my 4.5 year old, and just pictures for my 2.5 year old. Hoping this helps foster a little more independence and ownership of some of these tasks moving forward for the younger two as well!
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I'm crashing and burning over here. Hoping to get into a groove soon but it's hard when it's a different camp/different drop off each week. I did not anticipate this and i'm regretting not getting more support for myself. I'm working on hiring more babysitters moving forward. Working feels impossible!
I need to remember this for next Summer. Hire. The. Babysitters. -
I’m dying. I actually just hired a high school girl to stay at my house all day while I’m in and out and basically be an extra set of hands (even though my kids are signed up for camps) because I can’t manage. My work is struggling. I don’t understand why the US isn’t more accommodating or at least acknowledges that Summer is BRUTAL for moms. I’ll report back on if the high school nanny gives me some relief
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Every night I go to bed unsure how all the pieces will come together the next day. It’s way too much. I don’t know how to make it any better besides to take a lot of PTO?? I feel like I’m failing everywhere
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I brought this topic to my therapist recently and she said, <generally speaking > When the husband goes to work he goes to work. When the wife goes to work she is working+coordinating carpool+scheduling dr appointments+ organizing playdates+ keeping up with where kids are/supposed to be and what they need.
How can you make your schedule look more like your husbands? I'm looking into hiring a "mother's helper" as they are more cost efficient but will help me stay organized and be another set of hands around the house. Stay tuned! -
Absolutely!! It’s too many things moving and changing - and I always mess things up at this time. Just yesterday I missed a time for tutoring that we had changed
I felt so bad. 
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Our Summer just took a turn. We started out okay and now it’s definitely not okay. I adjusted my working hours- I get things done before the kids wake up (like emails) and end my day earlier. It sort of helps but not a cure all
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Girl, same! At the end of the school year so many ask if I'm excited for summer. I literally just stare at them! I wish I could be, but we both work full time so the summer is just more of a hassle with camps, carpools, kids home, trying to work from home, etc. Can you take any extra time off? Hire a nanny or outside help? We recently hired a housekeeper and it has been amazing. But I also agree, the Mom takes the load of planning the kids lives!
