Burnt out of life in general
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I’m so burnt out. Burnt out of being a mom, wife, employee. Burnt out of deadlines, remembering everything, kids homework and getting them to school in the morning.
I’ve never felt like this before. Any advice on next steps? Obviously taking a break from life is not possible. -
I've been there! Wait, I'm still there most days. Do you have good "systems" set up so you can try to automate as much as possible? What about sitting down to work through Persist w/ your spouse? (https://www.timeforpersist.com/free-careload-assessment) Have you considered hiring help in the form of a house manager or family assistant (https://www.mysagehaus.com/) to take some stuff off your plate? I hired a girl from the Chi O babysitters group to run errands and do stuff around the house for me, and its SO helpful + the same cost as a babysitter. What about that idea? I have so much empathy for you. We (moms) are expected to do way too much.
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yes, i would be shocked if most moms haven't felt this way at some point. This isn't the ultimate solution (or maybe it is) but an ssri helped me get back on my feet. I tried zoloft (breastfeeding) and citalopram (post breastfeeding). I preferred citalopram bc I felt like it was easier to start and end, but i'm sure everyone is different. Just a mom not a dr.
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Yep, been there! For me it's when i've been operating out of my capacity for too long. I have tried to reduce the amount of decisions I make on the daily. Every week we have the same menu for dinner (monday pasta, tuesday tacos etc), I've made the decision to not drink alcohol right now-that way I don't have to weigh the pros and cons and make that decision everyday/at every function. I schedule my workouts so I don't have to make that decision everyday on if i'll workout and where. I do my grocery pick up at the same time every week so it's just part of my routine and i'm not having to figure that out.
You get the idea. Reducing decisions has been so helpful for me. It's insane how many decisions we make every single day
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I wanna validate that most (if not all) moms struggle with this. So you are not alone mama. 🫶
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As far as where to go from here - seek support! I know it’s often the last thing we moms do (thinking of helping ourselves) , but if Don’t take care of ourselves, we won’t be able to help anyone else in our family. So whether it’s asking a friend to help you with the carpool, or having the in-laws watch your kids for a weekend, or seeking out a counselor or parenting coach, I hope you find the support you deserve -
Burnout is real, and it makes even the smallest tasks feel overwhelming. You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to feel like you need a reset.
Since taking a full break from life isn’t an option, maybe start small:
- What can you let go of, even temporarily? Can you delegate something at work or home, or loosen up on a few things that don’t have to be perfect?
- Can you build in tiny moments of breathing room? Turning your phone off or on DO NOT DISTURB for an hour or every night for a set amount of time. EXERCISE, or even just a walk or saying no to one extra thing can help.
- If you are a working mom, can you outsource something? What is the task that is taking so much brain power but you avoid (laundry, meal prep etc.). Whatever that is maybe its time to outsource it.
