sleepover
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At what age do you allow your kid to have their first sleepover with a friend??
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Ugh hopefully never? I feel like the trend is late overs now for later elementary and middle school
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My kids beg and beg and beg. We have avoided them so far in elementary school. We do late overs instead. Going to
Hold out as long as possible, maybe forever
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We ONLY allow for sleepovers with friends/families that we are super close to, know, love and trust. I’m especially particular for my girls. Late overs are definitely the new “it” thing and I just tell my kids they’ll get a better night sleep in their own bed anyways
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We started in 3rd grade I believe. I much prefer to have kids stay at our house than my kids sleep over somewhere. So I was happy to have other kiddos spend the night. The bigger question is when do you stop sleepovers. For us that was 9th grade.
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Here is what worked for us and I still battle this today. It is tricky, once you start it is near impossible to go backwards and I wish I could go WAY back! We did sleepovers with only certain families in elementary and then that became challenging to explain to your child why you can at this house but, not that house? And who knows what they said to their friends. It's a terrible battle that little minds just can't understand and just as challenging with older kids too - although it's a tad easier to reason with an older child...sometimes! We pushed to more late-overs in middle school and then just left it at that for a long time - although there were some sleepovers thrown in there however, very limited.
Now that my kids are older teens in High School - we still do not prefer sleepovers and say no often - staying busy helps as we all know sleep is important. And I actually feel different about them for our daughter vs. our son which is extra challenging. All this to say - kids just love them so it's so hard to say no, so I wish I would have just said no from the very beginning as just a standard rule.
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I came here to ask this question. I hate restricting bc I had sleepovers when I was young and loved them. It's also where I got into trouble...
For now (elementary) we do not do them. Not only can scary things happen but I've also heard of girls being mean and unsupervised into the wee hours of the morning. And there's no escaping because my kids don't have phones yet. Why are sleepovers a thing in 2024? I sorta feel like it's an 80s/90s thing that should've fizzled out now that we know more?
I'm keeping it a "no" for now but I am curious how others are navigating. I'm still trying to figure out something. -
We are going to delay as long as possible, I feel like once we start they will ask ALL the time!! Kinda like play dates.
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We allow them with very few families who we know extremely well who parent similarly and it has to be 1:1. In our experience when it’s a group is when things go south. It’s rare and a special thing for us. My kids ask all the time though. I actually think my kids like the idea of it more than actually enjoying the sleepover
