How often are you invited?
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I am in the littler kid busy stage of life as are my friends. But I feel like unless I plan/invite I don’t actually get asked to do much despite it seeming like I have a decent amount of friends. How often do most people get invited to do things? Like we haven’t been invited to someone’s home for dinner in years. Do people still do that? We always have our invitations accepted and everyone has fun. It just never feels reciprocated.
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I could’ve written this post. It’s so hard and honestly bizarre to me. Sometimes people don’t have the skill set of hosting. Other times people don’t think about organizing but are happy to be invited. We rarely get invited despite having a lot of friends
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I do feel like my invites definitely got less from the friends that only had 1-2 kids when I have 3. That being said, I have many friends that have 4 kids and still get invited places. Do you feel that it’s maybe a certain group of friends that act this way and that’s just their personality?
If so, maybe stick to inviting the arms wide opening family friendly families that welcome the extra chaos :))
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If you’re in the little kid stage maybe moms are overwhelmed? It sounds like you’re making an effort! I think we can all feel this way no matter your age or stage. Ugh hate you’re feeling this way!
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I also have 4 little kids and I know that my family is harder to host than smaller families. We really only get invited places by a handful of friends and I’ve made peace with that because those are the good true ones! It’s definitely getting easier/more often than when they were tiny. Just keep trying. It’ll all even out eventually. Hang in there mama!
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I have 4 of all ages from high school to preschool and I do feel like we did more family get togethers when my older two were younger. It just seemed easier to hang with friends that had a few kids similar in age (young) As we added more kids, our lives got busier and I do feel like our friends around us got busier and there were less get togethers. I’m the worst at hosting but it sounds like you enjoy it, so maybe continue to host friends and their families to get the time with them and hopefully they’ll see your effort and reciprocate. I’ll add, I do feel like everyone is busier these days and on days they have a free night at home with family, they take advantage of that and just have a quiet evening at home, but that also when the kids are older w/sports etc.
